1. Number one tip for being safe while online dating, starts with your online profile. You don’t want to reveal all your private data in your profile for the public to find. You should simply comunicate with the other members through the messaging system of the dating website. Once you feel more comfortable, you can choose to disclose your personal info and maybe even go out on a date. And if you do find out that the individual you are talking to is a weirdo – and it is bound to happen – your private data is confidential since you are using the messaging system of the singles dating online site.

2. If and when you do decide to go out on a date, I would definitely not let them come to your house for dinner or any other reason. Not a good idea! and No, you should not even make them pick you up at your house. You should decide on a public place to meet.

3. Another thought is to make the date a double date, maybe with a friend that also is into dating online. This is good for 2 reasons – there’s someone you know with you, and you can also have a way to leave without your date if they’re boring!

4. The first date should never be in seclusion or in a private area. This could get you in a dangerous situation. You don’t truly know these people you meet online. A eating place or some common space like a park is a much better idea. It’s constantly easier to be safe than sorry!

5. You probably shouldn’t booze on the first date. If you ever had to – just have a few. And don’t have your date get your drink. Get it from the barman or waiter. And do not allow for your drink alone (like if you goto the rest room).

6. You should make sure someone (roommate or friend) knows where you’re going or at least when you should be expected back. This way, if something does happen, if an accident were to happen, or something worse, at least someone will know where you were or when you were supposed to be back.

By holding to these easy rules, you know some points to keep yourself safe with singles online dating sites. Since you know that you will be safe – you can now have some fun when you go out on your date with your new online partner!

I was asked by my colleague to connect to him and was informed that he had agreed to this. But when I connected to him I found the experience quite unique.

For many years I have been able to take my spirit out of my physical body and travel to a different aspect of my Self — as, in reality, we are all one.

On this occasion, I waited until I went to bed at night and, at the junction point between waking and sleeping, I took my conscious awareness out of my body and travelled — I suppose one could call it through the Astral Planes — to the space occupied by this person.

As I arrived I was surprised to meet with quite a bit of resistance. The best may be to describe my experience: as I mentioned above, I did not take my physical body, only my spiritual awareness.

As I came around him to start the healing process, he started to lash out at me, lunging his hands into my body to rip me apart. The easiest way to visualize this process would be like a sword fight.

If you can imagine him with a sword in his hand slicing the air where I was standing and lunging the sword through me, you will get a feel for the level of resistance I was experiencing.

Because I did not take my physical body with me you can see why this was so futile. The sword was just passing through me: I was existing only in the empty space, so it looked as though he were just attacking fresh air.

After a while he began to tire and realize himself that this was futile and he could not hurt or destroy me. As he relaxed and accepted my presence, I was able to connect to him telepathically and I started to send loving, supportive thoughts to help with his healing process.

Since that initial joining of our spirits, I have not experienced any resistance from him. I now feel that he is gaining the support and love he needs from the inside to change his life on the outside.

I will keep working with him over the next few months to build his self-esteem and confidence. I feel the healing process is well under way and that, over time, he can gain in self-confidence, become self-sufficient again and live a happy, normal life.

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Then there are 3 things you must know or must do in order to make sure you get him.

1. Get Clear on Who He Is

Let me ask you this. If you don’t know…

• what kind of personality he must have
• what behavioural characteristics he must possess
• what he must value in life
• the keys to how he looks in order to be s*xually attractive

Poor? Very Slim? Worse than that?!

If there’s a key to success in anything (and let’s face it you know this already) it’s getting clear on your goal. Sound’s a bit clinical when talking about future husband material, but it’s a universal rule. If you don’t know what your goal is in anything you do, you seriously damage your chances of getting it.

And we’re not talking about the `dark hair, over 6 foot, sensitive, listens to me, loves to go shopping’ list. What we’re talking about here is identifying your most important emotional needs. The things that when they are met will make you feel `naturally’ loved for ever by your partner.

Also you must know the behavioural patterns that a man has to exhibit to make you feel loved, cared for and passionate. And just as importantly the ones that turn you off big time. Things like – the level of physical affection you require, whether or not he buys you gifts regularly and maybe even the fact that he likes spending time with your family.

You also need to know what you value in life in order to match sufficiently at that level too. If you demand adventure in your life to stay excited then you don’t want to be wasting valuable time with a guy who, you eventually discover, gets his biggest kicks watching Saturday’s match from the couch.

Once you’re very clear on your needs – emotional, behavioural, value-wise – then you massively multiply your chances of finding your Mr. Right. In fact, if you combine this with the next 2 steps, I challenge you not to find him in 12 months! So the next must is…

2. Get Clear on Who You Need To Be

Don’t worry! We’re not talking personality makeover here.

Most of the time, what my clients need is some additional information, some insight, some ways of dealing with men to allow them to make the most of their own potential.

Why?

Because sometimes there’s something stopping you attracting the right type of man.

What commonly stops my clients? Their self-esteem. They make themselves unavailable to men. Not maximising their body image. Not being able to flirt and attract enough men. Not being able to hold on to men. The list goes on.

Now don’t get depressed. I’m sure not all of these apply to you! However, there’s something that right now is preventing you from finding your man. Some piece of your behaviour that is blocking you. And you absolutely must find out what it is. More of that later…

3. Date Relentlessly

The last must:

You know who you want. You know what you need to do to attract him. The only thing left is to date relentlessly. Because dating is definitely a numbers game.

You need to be going on a minimum of 2 dates a week. Preferably more. If that sounds impossible/horrendous/not worth it, let me explain. There are 3 keys to allow you to do this.

a) Multiple dating

`Going out’ with more than one man at a time. No – it’s not immoral. You just need to be very clear about what is and what isn’t acceptable for you and your potential dates. You must share that with your partners at just the right time. And you mustn’t overstep your boundaries. Seriously, I’ve made that mistake, in the name of science, and it gets really messy, very quickly .

b) Modern dating resources

Pubs and clubs are very poor places to meet available men. To meet the numbers of men you need to, you must take advantage of some more modern dating methods – online dating, speed dating, singles parties, etc. Not only must you use them, but you must know how to get the number of dates out of them that you want.

c) Lots of dates, very few relationships

A date is not a night out. A date can be, and most of the time will be, a 20 minute `coffee break’ meeting. This allows you to fit in lots of dates and get to know whether there’s any chemistry between the two of you. Your first date is almost always going to be going for a quick drink.

That’s it.

3 must do steps. Know who you’re after. Know what you need to do or be to find him. Date relentlessly (in the right way). So what’s stopping you?

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Michael Myerscough is a 16 year veteran of counselling and coaching people to have great relationships. He is the author of `Finding Mr. Right’, a book that guarantees you’ll find your man within 2-18 months.

If your marriage is going through one of those phases that all marriages eventually go through, you will find yourself in a position where a simply apology will go a very long way in helping to resolve the issue. If enough of these smaller issues are left unrecognized, a divorce will most likely be in your future.

If you have done something you need to apologize for, use the four R’s to help develop an apology that will go a very long way. Hopefully, this strategy can help avoid a divorce or in the worst-case scenario, make a divorce a little more amicable. The four R’s for a successful apology are: recognition, regret, responsibility and remedy.

RECOGNITION

You must first recognize where you have gone wrong and what you need to apologize for. If you don’t recognize the fact it may not be OK to play golf with the boys every Saturday and Sunday morning, then you maybe a single golfer before you know it. If however, you recognize playing golf every weekend with the boys may not be in the best interest of your marriage, you may want to recognize this fact and admit it to your spouse.

REGRET

After you recognize the error of your ways and admit you were wrong to play golf all weekend long, you would be well served to express regret to your spouse because of your actions. If your spouse sees sincere regret on your part, they are more likely to accept your apology as being genuine and heart felt.

RESPONSIBILITY

If you don’t want to become a single golfer, when you apologize to your spouse, you should accept full responsibility for your actions. It is useless to blame the guys for dragging you out to the course every weekend morning. It serves no purpose to blame a stressful job and the fact you require some down time with the guys in order to help you cope. You must fess up and admit the problem was caused by you and only you can help change the outcomes.

REMEDY

Once you recognize that playing golf every weekend is not acceptable and you have demonstrated sincere regret and responsible for your actions, it is time to develop a remedy to help solve the problem.

You must communicate to your spouse how you intend to remedy or change the problem so that the behavior is not repeated in the future. You must compromise with your spouse so that both of you can agree upon an acceptable time to play golf with the boys.

Gary Kelly is co-creator of the online dating website for golfers, http://www.DateAGolfer.com and http://www.PuttingForPar.com, a golf website specializing in personalized ball markers.

Let me state my premise; The gay fringe using unlawful abuse of power, extortion techniques, slander and unlawful acts are indeed slowing down the G & L Communities efforts for marriage. I further state that they will not listen to anyone and need mentoring from people they respect; I believe that to be the G & L Community itself. I stand by all those statements and nothing you have said even remotely challenges those observations and real experiences.

In discussing this with a gay activist they and their friends immediately started name calling, yet their comments that; I am afraid, homosphobic, a bigot, need psychiatric help, paranoid and all the others are not really too concerning to me, as they simply are not so. It appears the gay and lesbian community will not own up to the fact that their own radical fringe is indeed slowing their movement.

Many people are glad, because they do not want gays to get married. I was further told by the gay activists after the called me every name in the book that I was in fear and they stated; “One thing about dealing with fear is understanding this, and realizing that things will be okay despite that.”

Yes that’s me alright, so fearful, so afraid, so worried that my shadow might say “Boo!” I fell so helpless and weak now that you have uncovered that I am merely a little boy so fearful? Sure that’s it! The problem here is there is name calling all the way around from both sides, yet the gay fringe is not interested in communication, only threats, slander and extortion tactics. They are full on locked and loaded for war over gay marriage. Consider this in 2006.

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The holiday season is also a time when many couples get engaged. Men propose to the woman they love and want to share the rest of their lives with.

The next step is sharing the wonderful news with family and friends. The question is: how are we going to share our news with so many people? One idea is to send everyone a personalized Save the Date magnet.

Save the Date magnets are also referred to as “refrigerator magnets”; so named for their popularity on refrigerators in just about every household. Not only will your family and friends be thrilled with your wedding engagement, they will also love the unique magnets and surely place them on their fridge, useful for holding important reminders, phone numbers and favorite photos.

Let’s not forget the most important reminder of all, your engagement or wedding date! Everyone will be reminded daily of your engagement or upcoming wedding date.

Not sure exactly when you are getting married? That’s easy, simply state “Date to be Announced” or “Invitations to Follow” on your magnets, right below the future bride and groom’s names.

Raymond Miller is the founder of My Wedding Reception Ideas. My Wedding Reception Ideas offers wedding couples ideas and products for personalized wedding favors including wedding announcements and save the date magnets.

Sequence of the Toasts

The wedding toast is usually given first by the best man, then the father, the groom and the bride, and then followed by those who would like to give a toast. Versions may vary, however.

Other traditional sequences of wedding toasts also follow the best man as the first one to give the toast, followed by the groom who says a few words to his bride, parents, family, and members of the wedding party. After which, the groom is then followed by other people such as family members or friends who also want to give a toast, and then lastly, the father of the bride who thanks everyone for attending the wedding.

On the other hand, a nontraditional manner of the sequence of wedding toasts starts off with the emcee toasting the bride and groom. This is followed by the groom saying a few words to the guests and his bride, followed by the bride giving a little speech to her parents and in-laws, and finally, the father of the bride thanking everyone who shared this special day with them.

The Actual Toast

Ever since a monk named Dom Perignon invented champagne, it has since become the number one drink during wedding toasts. So before performing the wedding toast, make sure that your own glass as well as the glasses of other people (most especially the bride and groom’s) are also filled with drink.

Stand next to the bride and groom when giving your toast, and using a spoon, tap your own glass in order to get people’s attention. Raise your glass using your right hand held straight from your shoulder, and then you can begin the wedding toast.

Wedding Toast Tips

Preparing the Speech: Practice!
Giving a wedding toast, albeit a short one, in front of so many people can be quite a nerve-wracking experience. However, it doesn’t really have to be, not as long as you come prepared. Write your speech down so you would know exactly what to say. Let it come straight from your heart, so that you would be able to convey the sentiments you want to impart to the couple you are toasting. You can also try showing it to someone for comment so that you can get feedback in improving on your speech. Remember to keep on practicing until you feel confident and comfortable enough to deliver it in front of a crowd.

K.I.S.S.
Keep your wedding toast brief and straight to the point, since you wouldn’t want to divert attention away from the happy couple. Nobody wants to listen to an extremely long speech, so remember this wordK.I.S.S. (Keep It Short and Simple). A good measurement of a wedding toast is around 3 minutes.

Giving the Speech
In giving the wedding toast, speak loudly and clearly especially if you don’t have a microphone, so that people would understand what you’re going to say. Talking loudly gives you a certain presence, and now that you have the audience’s undivided attention, it’s important to hold it by not mumbling your words. So remember to talk slowly, because this is not a race to get you to finish your speech as fast as you can. Remember, people actually want to hear what you have to say.

Make Eye Contact & Smile!
Having your speech or cue cards printed out is indeed a great help in giving a wedding toast, but remember not to read it straight out from beginning to end. Make eye contact with the audience, so that they would feel that you really are speaking to them. Oh yeah, and don’t forget the most important detail of all: Smile! This is a joyous event, and your smile should actually say so!

Visit www.aragia.com for tips on etiquette for wedding toasts and maid of honor speeches.

“Generally, the more musicians and the more hours, the larger the cost,” Chandler Judkins, President of Las Vegas Wedding Music, said. Las Vegas Wedding Music is the number one musician contracting company in Las Vegas. “Many options are available to keep costs low if you work with a flexible musician contractor.”

1. Ask for deals

Many wedding music contractors have specials for those who can’t afford the big band of their dreams or even a small string quartet.

For example, Las Vegas Wedding Music offers a string quartet for ceremony music in Las Vegas for around $500 if the quartet is used for the ceremony only.

String quartets usually charge by the hour and have a two hour minimum which could easily start at $800.

Sometimes wedding music contractors are also the musicians in some of their own bands, so they have discounts to use the bands that they themselves play in.

Chandler Judkins of Las Vegas Wedding Music plays the trumpet in many of his wedding music groups, so a jazz quartet actually costs less than a string quartet but sounds just as beautiful.

When in doubt, as the wedding music contractor. You never know what they might offer.

2. Get a Trio

If a string quartet, jazz quartet or any other wedding band seems just out of your reach budget wise, hire one less musician. Get a string trio or a jazz trio instead of a string quartet or jazz quartet. It is still better than hiring a DJ and sounds beautiful.

If a string trio or jazz trio is still out of your budget, duos can also be a beautiful touch. Sometimes simple is better anyway.

“Make sure you check with your wedding planner about duos though,” Judkins said. “Sometimes they have contracts with string quartets that disallow them to cut players.”

This is one reason why Judkins encourages brides and grooms to find a musician contractor to handle their music verses a wedding planner.

“Don’t get me wrong,” Judkins said. “Wedding planners are great. But they have their degree in wedding planning, whereas, we wedding musician contractors have our degree in music.”

3. Maximize Your Time

If a couple’s wedding reception plans consist of six hours of cocktails, then five hours of dancing, this can pose a problem if a couple doesn’t have a deep wallet.

“When planning your wedding music, decide when the most people will be there and paying attention to the atmosphere,” Judkins said. “You may only have a couple hours of live music, but it will make those hours the most unforgettable part of your wedding day … to you and your guests.”

To see examples of wedding bands and possible musician options, go to http://www.lvweddingmusic.com.

Renae earned her journalism degree from the University of Nevada Las Vegas. She is currently a wedding consultant for www.vegaswedlock.com. Learn more about Las Vegas Wedding Music by visiting www.lvweddingmusic.com.

Wedding favors, gift cards and gift baskets can be an easy way of getting the right gift. Gifts are a way to say I love you, and I cherish you? They are symbolic of the bride and groom?s day, and show the specific style and tastes that are unique to the couple. Gift ideas range from bath products, aromatherapy, makeup, jewelry, pictures and frames, candles, heirlooms from generations past, and many others. Included in this long list are mens gifts, such as, golf passes, business card holders, tie clips, cuff links and much more.

There are gifts for the writer on your list, such as journals, notepaper, unique and classic cards and others. Gift Baskets are a popular item to include in a wedding plan. These could include, the romantic- consisting of wines and chocolates with fruit and candles. Other gifts include makeup, clothing, and others. The list goes on because of the endless ideas available to you with these Wedding gift, wedding gift cards and gift basket ideas.

Wedding favors, gift cards and gift baskets can be an easy way of getting the right gift. They will meet all of your gift giving ideas. The special people involved in your wedding day will cherish your unique and special gifts, which reflect you and your day! We hope that our links will be of great help. The list goes on because of the endless ideas available to you with these Wedding gift, wedding gift cards and gift basket ideas.

Ken and Deidre Bissonette are successful authors and publishers of Wedding information for all brides and grooms. http://www.weddingdresses-gifts-flowers.com

==The Best Wedding Software==

The best wedding software will include places for the wedding planner to put deadlines, prices and other information.

This kind of information is vital to properly planning a wedding.

Keeping track of deadlines is particularly difficult when planning a wedding, since there are so many deadlines to deal with. Everything from ordering the cake to setting the menu to renting the reception hall will have its own deadline, and wedding software makes this job a lot easier.

==Locating Your Wedding Software==

There are many places to search for wedding software, from the local office supply or computer store to large big box electronic stores to the internet.

There are a great many software packages on the market, and it is important to choose the right one. Many wedding software packages feature trial versions that can be downloaded free of charge.

It is important for the bride to be or the wedding planner to try out a couple of different software packages until he or she finds just the right one.

==Your Wedding Software Should Be Easy To use==

It is also important that the wedding software you choose be easy to use, intuitive and user friendly. It is also important that it be easy to learn, after all you will want to use your time entering all those important wedding planning details, not learning to use the software.

The best wedding planning software will provide you all the vital information at a glance, including upcoming deadlines, the status of your wedding budget, and other important information.

The right software can make all the difference in the world, and make planning the perfect wedding a lot easier.

Shaunta Pleasant is a professional writer and editor on wedding planning topics. Visit my site to learn more about planning the perfect wedding at http://www.best-wedding-plan.com/wedding_software.html